Authenticity - by Danielle
Authenticity
If you know me you know that I am basically a wide open book. I’d like to think that what you see is what you get with me. However, what you might not know is that I spend far too much time worrying about what others will think about my home, about my kids, how I look, and the life choices I make. I don’t shy away from sharing how I feel, about being vulnerable as to my experiences or limitations but when it comes to those material things (nice home, nice clothes), I never quite feel like I can measure up. I rarely open up my home to host as I’m ashamed that everything is second hand and life is strewn throughout our house, not to mention I don’t enjoying cooking, so what would I possibly feed my guests. Spending time connecting deeply with those I care about, now that’s where I thrive. Hikes in the woods, a coffee by the fireplace, a game night or just relaxing on the deck with a friend is where I am authentically and comfortably myself.
I will also seek out authenticity in others and can be deeply hurt when people are closed off around me. I strive to be open, honest, and approachable in hopes that others will feel like they can be too. When it feels like there’s distance I can often internalize that distance as something I did to impact their ability to be authentic with me. I get real creative and write stories as to why those things are happening. I have learned, and continue to learn, when I need to check those stories and dig deeper for the truth. God is also constantly reminding me that His connection and view of me is what matters, not that of the world. I feel like it’s a life long lesson for me.
If you know me you know that I am basically a wide open book. I’d like to think that what you see is what you get with me. However, what you might not know is that I spend far too much time worrying about what others will think about my home, about my kids, how I look, and the life choices I make. I don’t shy away from sharing how I feel, about being vulnerable as to my experiences or limitations but when it comes to those material things (nice home, nice clothes), I never quite feel like I can measure up. I rarely open up my home to host as I’m ashamed that everything is second hand and life is strewn throughout our house, not to mention I don’t enjoying cooking, so what would I possibly feed my guests. Spending time connecting deeply with those I care about, now that’s where I thrive. Hikes in the woods, a coffee by the fireplace, a game night or just relaxing on the deck with a friend is where I am authentically and comfortably myself.
I will also seek out authenticity in others and can be deeply hurt when people are closed off around me. I strive to be open, honest, and approachable in hopes that others will feel like they can be too. When it feels like there’s distance I can often internalize that distance as something I did to impact their ability to be authentic with me. I get real creative and write stories as to why those things are happening. I have learned, and continue to learn, when I need to check those stories and dig deeper for the truth. God is also constantly reminding me that His connection and view of me is what matters, not that of the world. I feel like it’s a life long lesson for me.
Welcome Danielle!
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